Do you ever feel like you are ‘losing’ your children to their video games? Fornite is one of those that families often mention to me – usually with a negative connotation! Unfortunately the ‘fun’ goes out when the bad moods, fights and aggressive behaviour starts.
Unlike the hand held video games that were prevalent in my vintage that faded out when the batteries had no charge (or no batteries at all) today’s versions are available anywhere and anytime; which is the most likely cause of the ‘problem’.
With many advantages to around-the-clock living, of course we need to accept that it also brings its problems too. Games aren’t just available on lap tops, tablets and stationery devices, but also on phones which are everywhere.
The nature of games like Fornite are that they are the corner stone of teens and ‘pre-teens’ social life which is a large part of the reason they have become so important. So it is, in a way, understandable why they seem to be so important to children and teenagers.
The challenge is of course when the game has to end..and the return from the stimulation of the virtual world means that coming back to reality can be felt by a great big bump! The flashes of colour, speed and instant gratification might seem dull in comparison when ‘normal’ life is restored which could seem confronting to children who are becoming increasingly engaged in building relationships through a screen.
My feeling is that there is a need for balance to help support our children to live in the times that they live in, embracing technology with a sense of freedom to discover themselves through gaming.
Just as every generation before this one, there will always be something that the parent and child will not ‘understand’ about each other. Perhaps learning from each other is the compromise that it is needed in order to keep game time fun…perhaps even occasionally with children teaching adults and adults guiding children in equal share.