This, is of course, easier said than done, especially when we feel time poor, feel overwhelmed or if it is just one of those days where it feels like nothing will get done if we don’t intervene as adults. This makes it all the more problematic because the means don’t actually justify the ends.
The term “robbing Peter to pay Paul” comes to mind here, and this often ends up feeling like a haze of unintended anxiousness that permeates our spaces between adults and children.
Each and every time we ‘do’ something for a child that they could have done for themselves inadvertently sends a message that what they are doing is in some way not ‘right’ and when they observe this it can lead to feelings including :
Children want to feel confident and capable as they see modelled around them constantly by older peers and adults who have had the time and experience to develop and refine their skills.
Please let your child have the same opportunity to master tasks and the associated emotions that correlate through the journey of learning, with support, modelling and guidance they deserve.